5 Ways To Practice Self-Connection When Feeling Lost

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If you’re feeling lost, one of the best ways to get your life back into alignment with who you are is by taking time to connect with yourself.

Because self-connection is at the root of real self-care. And when you are able to connect with yourself authentically, you are able to get in touch with a deeper part of you that knows what you need to create a life of meaning and fulfillment.

So you may be wondering, how can I start to feel more connected to myself?

Here are some ideas to start:

Take Time To Reflect

All it takes to feel more connected to yourself is setting aside time to process and reflect. And when I say reflect, I don’t mean overanalyze. Or put yourself down.

I mean get curious about who you really are.

You can do so by going to therapy, chatting with a friend, meditating, or even by spending time with yourself.

And I get it – when you’re working 40+ hours a week, you may feel like you don’t have any time to check in with yourself.

Or perhaps you’re afraid of what might come up if you do.

But I promise – when you neglect your inner world for too long, problems will start to pop up in other places. So even though it may seem unnecessary, even a 5-10 minute check in can have a profound impact on you.

I have witnessed many people transform their lives by taking the time to explore their inner world more regularly. If you’re interested in starting therapy, don’t hesitate to reach out.


Whenever I take the time to journal, I am shocked by how many insights flow out of me that I didn’t know I had. It is one of my favorite tools for self-connection.

For me personally, one of my favorite times to journal is in the morning. I sit down with my notebook and pen and see what flows out of me. But many people also benefit from journaling at night, before bed. It can help to get any worries you have out onto paper before falling asleep.

If you want some guidance on how to start journaling for your mental health, check out this post, or download my 30 days of journal prompts.

Check In With Your Feelings

Acknowledging how you feel is one of the most powerful ways you can connect with yourself. Because your emotions are an integral part of you, and they contain valuable information. You must allow yourself to experience your feelings if you want to understand what they are trying to tell you.

So how are you feeling, really?

And if you struggle to answer that question or feel overwhelmed by your emotions, you are not alone!

Take 5-10 minutes right now. Download my free Feelings Guide to check in with yourself and safely navigate how you’re feeling. And come back to it whenever you’re feeling lost and want to reconnect with yourself.

Reassess Your Values

Our values help remind us of what is important to us. They serve as a blueprint for how we want to live our lives.

So if you’re feeling lost, it may be time for a values check to help you get back on track.

Our values are constantly changing. So perhaps the things that were really important to you a few years ago may not feel as relevant anymore. Or maybe you’re holding on to an older version of yourself that has evolved.

Either way, when you know your values, you are able to more easily connect with yourself. Download this free 10-minute values exercise to help you assess what’s important and reconnect to yourself as you are right now.

Creation Over Consumption

When you consume, you’re ingesting the work of others (which of course, isn’t always a bad thing!). But when you create, you’re unleashing parts of yourself that are yearning to be seen. When you want to connect with yourself, engage in activities that bring creativity into your life. You can try anything from painting to baking, to dancing or knitting, singing, writing, and beyond.

Connecting with yourself can help remendously when feeling lost, but sometimes you may be too caught up in an anxiety spiral, or be stuck in a cycle of overanalyzing. If that’s the case, talking to a therapist can help you get better at connecting with yourself over the long term, so you can create the most fulfilling and meaningful life possible.

I welcome you to take a look at my services page and reach out if you’d like to start therapy together.

So leave a comment below – which one of these tips do you want to try first? And please share – are there any other things you do that help you feel more connected to yourself?

If you enjoyed this article, check out Creating Moments Of Joy Is Better Than Being Happy, or How To Love Yourself: Try Being Okay With Yourself First.


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