Forget New Year’s Resolutions And Do This Instead

We live in a world that is hyper-focused on goal-setting, reaching the next level, and flaunting our accomplishments. I believe that it can be extremely helpful to take a step away from the constant pressure of hitting that next milestone by thinking in more holistic terms about what you want out of your life, and looking at your values.

Don’t get me wrong; I’m a huge fan of goal setting and creating measurable objectives to help you accomplish what you want can be very motivating. But if you really want to set some resolutions and keep them it can help to remember this one thing first:

Understand Your Values.

I know this sounds a bit simplistic, and you may be thinking that you already know what you value out of life.

But really understanding what is most important to you, and reflecting on whether or not you are living by your values, can be incredibly eye-opening. And, it will inspire you to live in a way that leaves you feeling so fulfilled, that setting and accomplishing goals becomes the icing on the cake.

Or really just the sprinkles on the icing on the cake.

So how do you do start to gain a deeper understanding of your values? You can start by taking the time to think about them.

Your values are a real, living and breathing part of you. They are constantly changing and evolving, and tapping into them helps you tap into an important part of yourself.

If you aren’t sure what your values are, I highly encourage you to download this Values Worksheet I created.

It only takes about 10 minutes to complete, but the insights you gain will help serve as an anchor when you have to make any decision about your life over the next coming year.

Once you complete the exercise, you can take it to the next level by reflecting. Below are some questions you can ask yourself to dig a little deeper.

Taking time to write out your reflections will help you dig a little deeper.


In a journal or on a sheet of paper, answer the following questions. (Don’t think too hard about what to write, just let your thoughts flow onto the paper).

  • What do your top values really mean to you? Why are they important?
  • What was it like to have to rate your values?
  • In what ways do you live by your values?
  • What can you do to shift yourself back if you’re feeling out of alignment with your values? 
  • How would your life be different if you truly honored your values? Are there any areas of your life where you are honoring them? Any where you’re not?
  • How can you create more awareness of your values on a day-to-day basis? When making decisions? When interacting with others? 
  • How does it feel when you are really living by your values? Or not living by your values?

I hope this exercise helped to create a bit more self-awareness, and will inspire you to put more energy towards those things that are important to you.

My values fluctuate every so often, but at the time of writing this, they are:

  1. Freedom
  2. Authenticity
  3. Meaning
  4. Joy
  5. Magic
  6. Love (in all its forms)
  7. Adventure
  8. Peace
  9. Integrity
  10. Creativity

And, if you want to learn more about how my values influence my practice, visit my About Page.

If you found this exercise helpful, please share it! Again, you can download it here.

And, I’d love to hear more about your top values, so feel free to list them below.

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